Years ago, before becoming a spiritually oriented psychotherapist I took a workshop on relationships. An exercise we did was to pair off with someone we didn’t know and share a secret. The woman I partnered with said, “I’ve been ill and I have a belief that the ultimate healing is death. I think subconsciously because I have this belief I’m not taking good enough care of myself and in some way I’m even killing myself.”

Automatically out of my mouth came, “Is there any way you can consider healing into life?” I didn’t see her again until the close of the workshop when she came over to me to thank me for a new way of thinking about healing and a healthier life.

Over the years I thought about my own remark, “healing into life.” What did I really mean by that? And what is it that we want to heal?

Many years thereafter having studied esoteric philosophy, Buddhism, Shamanism. Kabbalah and writing a book, Personal Kabbalah: 32 Paths To Inner Peace And Life Purpose, I’ve come to believe that healing into life is healing into our own life force; our higher Self; our soul. It’s the part of ourselves that allows us to feel vital, whole, confident, and secure. It’s the innate loving, creative part of ourselves. And furthermore, all sickness is home sickness. We want to return home to our True Self.

In Kabbalah it is taught that the highest part of our soul, the “Yechida,” is out of body within oneness and source; our life force. It is the innate all knowing, all loving, all powerful, abundant part of ourselves; our Higher True Self, the essence of who we are. Along with that there’s an inner self; the spark of divinity within the body seeking to open to and receive more of our True Self. When we’re not connected to this greater part of ourselves we feel alone, lonely, discontent, out of balance and eventually become physically ill.

Whenever there are negative thought forms, repressed feelings and dysfunctional acting out behaviors we close off from our Higher True Self (soul). In Shamanism it is taught that a part of the soul leaves the body to avoid the pain. In psychology this is called disassociation. Furthermore, when the soul leaves the body it makes room for spiritual intrusions or uninvited guests. We feel out of sorts – or out of source – out of spirit. The void is often filled with addictive behaviors such as alcohol, drugs, shopping, gambling, etc. Or it can also be filled by internal disturbances of anger, depression, compulsions, fear, guilt and even physical manifestations of tumors, cancers and other uninvited physical ailments. For healing, our goal is to fill the void with our Higher Self, our Soul, our life force. It’s allowing this life force back in.

Kabbalists formulated a blueprint of creation called the Tree Of Life. This is a map of creation delineating the forces of nature as well as our own personal relationship with these forces and the journey of our souls. From a personal perspective it shows the steps to healing the parts of ourselves which may have disconnected from our life force. It offers ways and means to reconnect through meditation and prayer. Integrating psychology into the equation gives us not only internal tools but helps us see the obstacles to living these attributes and the practical steps to healing ourselves and our lives, curing our afflictions and even going beyond to Self Realization and Self Actualization. Below is a chart with the ten Divine attributes, the obstacles to living them and the steps of repair.


Divine Attributes
Obstacles To Healing
Steps To Healing

1. Inner Peace & Hope
Obstacle: Poor Self Care
Healing Step: Choose Life and Self Care
To feel peaceful and hopeful take care of yourself
physically with good nutrition and exercise. To reach
inside and experience your essence, meditate.

2. Self Love & Self Trust
Obstacle: Poor Self Esteem and Self Image
Healing Step: Become Self-ish.
To feel good about yourself, and develop a strong inner
foundation, acknowledge and believe in your Higher Self.
Commit to becoming the best Self (soul) you can be and to
make healthy choices.

3. Gratefulness
Obstacle: Negative Thoughts and Self-defeating Beliefs
Healing Step: Change your attitude to gratitude.
To feel grateful from the inside out you need to understand
cause and effect – that what goes on inside in thoughts and
beliefs transmits out and comes back. It shows that we
each are the cause based on our thoughts and we receive
lessons on what thoughts and beliefs we need to transform
for our souls to evolve. Acknowledging the lesson gives an
inner sense of gratitude. It also helps to keep a gratitude

4. Faith
Obstacle: Repressed Feelings
Healing Step: Let go And Let Love:
When you hold onto emotions it feels like you’re in control
when in fact your emotions are controlling you. To
experience faith from the inside out, master your emotions
by identifying and releasing them, opening to love, asking
for the highest and best good, and letting the universe take
care of the rest.

5. Beauty and Truth
Obstacle: We See Things Not As They Are But As We Are
Healing Step: God is in the details:
When we observe detailed facts rather than seeing things
through through perceptions, assumptions, beliefs or
expectations we get to the essence and beauty of what is.

6. Justice and Empowerment
Obstacle:Giving Into Harmful Inclinations: Judgments,
Criticisms, Superiority.
Healing Step: Self-Discipline:
Judge not others, but yourself. What you judge in others is
something you’re judging in yourself. Justice emerges when
you uncover the unresolved issues within yourself and
experience acceptance. Empowerment emerges with the
willingness to say what you mean without being mean which
comes from disciplined “right” speech.

7. Grace
Obstacle: Being Unkind And Unmerciful
Healing Step: Heartfelt Forgiveness, Unconditional love
And Loving-Kindness.
Grace comes with forgiveness. Forgiveness is for-giving love.
When you forgive from the heart, not just the head, there’s a
feeling of unconditional love and spontaneous actions of

8. Vision/Understanding (understanding your role in the universe)
Obstacle: Wandering Aimlessly: Having no vision, direction or
Healing Step: Follow your bliss.
Vision comes when you determine what you love to do and
start doing it. If you don’t know what that is ponder what you
think people need that you can offer, learn it for yourself and
offer it.

9. Wisdom
Obstacle: Self-sabotage: Feeling unworthy of your own
Healing Step: Feel entitled to have it all.
For wisdom to emerge allow yourself to receive the goodness
in the universe. Your role is to reach your highest potential
and live life to the fullest. Since you and everyone else are in
the image of the divine, then like divinity, you have the ability
to live your highest potential and reap the rewards of

10. Oneness and Will (Presence)
Obstacle: Regretting The Past, Worrying About The Future.
Healing Step: Be humble, live in the present, dare to dream.
Being humble comes with surrendering your compulsions
to the Divine. Living in the present means accepting what is
and what you have right now and being open to excellence –
your own excellence. When you live in the present you
experience the presence of the Divine and oneness. When
you set an intention, you co-create with the divine and
anything is possible. Dare to dream and set the intention to
manifest it with love.

Author's Bio: 

Penny Cohen, LCSW, is a leading edge, spiritual psychotherapist, hypnotherapist, energy psychology and Imago relationship practitioner, and Love-N-Life Coach. She is the author of Personal Kabbalah: 32 Paths To Inner Peace And Life Purpose and the founder of the Tree Of Life System™ a unique system which combines ancient wisdom of Kabbalah, Buddhism, Shamanism, Christianity and A Course Of Miracles, and science along with contemporary energy psychologies, commun-i-cation methodologies and practical steps for spiritual enlightenment and self realization. Working with Penny utilizing the Universal Tree of Life as a map for the journey of the soul people learn pathways and means to return to their spiritual roots, overcome the burdens of current life beliefs, repressed feelings, and success sabotaging behaviors, ancestral influences, and past life vows. People open to receive love, passion and purpose, perceive happiness and achieve their dreams. The end result is Love-N-Life. Her private practice is in Westchester, CT. She works with individuals and groups, on site and by telephone, and presents workshops internationally at professional conferences, universities and organizations on spiritual enlightenment, self realization and Love-N-Life. To learn more about Penny, the Tree Of Life System and Love-N-Life visit:, sign up for her Ezine Newsletter or contact