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- A Disturbing Reality - by Submitted on Jun 28, 2018 from William CottringerA Disturbing Reality By Bill Cottringer “Logic will never change emotion or perception.” ~ Edward de Bono. After studying things like success, happiness, failure, frustration and anger for several decades now, I have come to the conclusion there may be a very disturbing reality too ...
Views: 93 - Furiously Frustrated - by Submitted on Jun 25, 2018 from William CottringerFuriously Frustrated By Bill Cottringer In my previous article, “Seeds of Anger,” I think I overlooked the main problem with which we should have more empathy for ourselves and others. The real problem of our day is the frustration that leads either a quiet life of desperation or ...
Views: 83 - Seeds of Anger - by Submitted on Jun 20, 2018 from William CottringerSeeds of Anger By Bill Cottringer I think most people would agree that the main problems of our day are: (a) the artificially dualistic, unfair sharp divide between those who have abundance, power and all the other desirable things in life, and those who don’t have enough of these ...
Views: 124 - WHY PRISONS DON”T WORK (AS WELL AS THEY COULD) - by Submitted on Mar 20, 2018 from William CottringerWHY PRISONS DON'T WORK (AS WELL AS THEY COULD) By William Cottringer “Men simply copied the realities of their hearts when they built prisons.” ~ Richard Wright. I do not want to offend all the good people who have devoted their entire careers to positive prison reform, but the very ...
Views: 285 - Life's Hardest Lesson - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2018 from William CottringerLIFE”S HARDEST LESSON By Bill Cottringer. “Humility is not thinking less of yourself, it's thinking of yourself less.” ~Rick Warren. A doctor and her patient were having a defining-moment discussion about life’s hardest lesson. “So tell me what it is, said the impatient patient to ...
Views: 527 - The Only Unwinnable Conflict Worth Trying to Win - by Submitted on Jan 04, 2018 from William CottringerThe Only Unwinnable Conflict Worth Trying to Win By Bill Cottringer “There is one conflict that will never go away until we either figure out how to communicate past it or die trying. This conflict involves arguing for the beliefs and truths we are most certain about.” ~The Author. ...
Views: 430 - Three Beatitudes for Better Communication - by Submitted on Nov 01, 2017 from William CottringerThree Beatitudes for Better Communication By Bill Cottringer “The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place.” ~George Bernard Shaw. I first heard this simple but profound prescription for better communication below, used as a beginning and ...
Views: 592 - Are You Smart Enough? - by Submitted on Oct 30, 2017 from William CottringerAre You Smart Enough? By Bill Cottringer “Half of being smart is in knowing what you are dumb about.” ~Solomon Short. I have been an avid researcher of the connection between intelligence and success for several decades now, and am finally ready to release my short list for ...
Views: 645 - Managing vs. Coaching - by Submitted on Oct 26, 2017 from William CottringerManaging vs. Coaching by Bill Cottringer “You must always be the apprentice, even when you become the master.” ~ Christopher Cumby. A common problem with new managers is starting out with the wrong perspective, or as Stephen Covey would say, “getting to the top ...
Views: 373 - Game Plan For All Seasons - by Submitted on Sep 27, 2017 from William CottringerGame Plan For All Seasons By Bill Cottringer Psychology has one principle that can be applied to any interpersonal interaction to get the best results. This is the very fundamental principle of human behavior which recognizes that both our commonalities and our differences have to be ...
Views: 491 - 7 SURE BUILDING-BLOCKS OF SUCCESS - by Submitted on Sep 09, 2017 from William Cottringer7 SURE BUILDING-BLOCKS OF SUCCESS By Bill Cottringer “Success is a lousy teacher. It seduces smart people into thinking they can't lose.” ~ Bill Gates. Having both attempted and researched the phenomenon we call “success” now for nearly 7 decades, I have reached the conclusion that ...
Views: 418 - Choosing the Right Side - by Submitted on Aug 30, 2017 from William CottringerChoosing the Right Side By Bill Cottringer An elderly Episcopal priest once gave a simple sermon with a single message that makes too much sense to disregard, even for non-religious people. The message was this: There is one main choice in life and that is which side are you on—the ...
Views: 343 - WORDS ARE WICKED - by Submitted on Jun 19, 2017 from William CottringerWORDS ARE WICKED By Bill Cottringer “In the End, we will remember not the words of our enemies, but the silence of our friends,” ~Martin Luther King, Jr. For over 50-years now, I have worked in criminal justice as a law enforcement officer, prison warden and a security manager, and ...
Views: 444 - The Power of Awareness - by Submitted on Jun 09, 2017 from William CottringerThe Power of Awareness By Bill Cottringer “What is necessary to change a person is to change his awareness of himself.” ~Abraham Maslow. Focusing on one thing in life being more important than any other is a common mistake we often make. This usually results in over-embracing a ...
Views: 538 - DO OR DIE - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2017 from William CottringerDO OR DIE By Bill Cottringer “Conflicts give rise to villains, heroes, victims and bystanders. Which are you willing to be, in doing or dying for? ~The Author. We are all chasing after things we think we want because of how they make us feel—happiness, success, peace of mind, ...
Views: 571 - An Epiphany About Intentionality - by Submitted on Apr 14, 2017 from William CottringerAn Epiphany About Intentionality By Bill Cottringer “All things considered, the concept of willfulness loses sight of too many of them.” ~The Author. I am proposing that our entire justice system is built upon a highly questionable basic assumption—that all wrongdoers are ...
Views: 419 - Work Success - by Submitted on Apr 01, 2017 from William CottringerWORK SUCCESS By Bill Cottringer “The price of success is hard work, dedication to the job at hand, and the determination that whether we win or lose, we have applied the best of ourselves to the task at hand.” ~Vince Lombardi. Success in today’s work place involves a commitment to ...
Views: 415 - The Paucity Paradigm - by Submitted on Mar 28, 2017 from William CottringerThe Paucity Paradigm By Bill Cottringer “Usually the first problems you solve with the new paradigm are the ones that were unsolvable with the old paradigm.” ~Joel A. Barker. Way back in the Garden of Eden, Adam and Eve did something that contaminated our thinking and the language ...
Views: 530 - AN ATTITUDE FOR ALL SEASONS - by Submitted on Feb 01, 2017 from William CottringerAN ATTITUDE FOR ALL SEASONS by Bill Cottringer “The amount of success you have or don’t have, is more related to how you define success, than all you talents, efforts, motivation, timing and luck combined together.”~ The Author. I have been an avid student of human behavior and ...
Views: 723 - What Employers Need - by Submitted on Jan 30, 2017 from William CottringerWhat Employers Need By Bill Cottringer “The employer generally gets the employees he deserves.” ~J. Paul Getty. Knowing what employer’s need—not necessarily what they think they want (or what they deserve?)—can greatly improve job success in the organization for both employers and ...
Views: 444 - How to Get a Job in Today’s Marketplace - by Submitted on Jan 04, 2017 from William CottringerHow to Get a Job in Today’s Marketplace By Bill Cottringer “People will try to tell you that all the great opportunities have been snapped up. In reality, the world changes every second, blowing new opportunities in all directions, including yours.” ~Ken Hakuta. From all my ...
Views: 423 - Too Much Familiarity Can Breed Contempt - by Submitted on Dec 26, 2016 from William CottringerToo Much Familiarity Can Breed Contempt By Bill Cottringer “Familiarity breeds contempt, for others at first, but then inwardly, contempt towards ourselves.” ~Oli Anderson, Synchronesia: A Depressing Existential Novel. Most relationship experts agree that contempt can creep into a ...
Views: 1544 - What To Focus On? - by Submitted on Dec 20, 2016 from William CottringerWhat To Focus On? By Bill Cottringer “Concentrate all your thoughts upon the work at hand. The sun's rays do not burn until brought to a focus.” ~Alexander Graham Bell. Regarding the title question, the answer in a word is—NOW. One very popular view of life is that we are all pawns ...
Views: 463 - TWO KINDS OF BELIEFS - by Submitted on Nov 14, 2016 from William CottringerTWO KINDS OF BELIEFS By Bill Cottringer “Reality is that which, when you stop believing in it, doesn't go away.” ~Philip K. Dick. Beliefs are what drive and explain human behavior. They reassure us the truth of something and justify our thinking, feeling and acting in our minds, ...
Views: 523 - HEALING THE DIVIDE - by Submitted on Nov 10, 2016 from William CottringerHEALING THE DIVIDE By Bill Cottringer “The belief that there is only one truth, and that oneself is in possession of it, is the root of all evil in the world.” ~Max Born. Last Month, I published an article in Security Management magazine, entitled “The Two-Way Manager.” This ...
Views: 480 - Managing Life’s Five Great Illusions for Better Sports and Law Enforcement Performance. - by Submitted on Nov 01, 2016 from William CottringerManaging Life’s Five Great Illusions for Better Sports and Law Enforcement Performance. By Bill Cottringer As I have already mentioned in a previous article, performance in sports and law enforcement have a lot in common. For one thing, both require a healthy mixture of individuality ...
Views: 440(1 vote) - Maintaining More Ups Than Downs - by Submitted on Oct 29, 2016 from William CottringerMaintaining More Ups Than Downs By Bill Cottringer “Let it rain on some days, let yourself shiver on some cold nights, so when it's Spring you'll know why it was all worth going through.” ~Sanhita Baruah. We all have different score-keeping methods about memories of past ups ...
Views: 647(1 vote) - The Problems a Divided Mind Causes - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2016 from William CottringerThe Problems a Divided Mind Causes By Bill Cottringer “I have realized that the past and future are real illusions, that they exist in the present, which is what there is and all there is.” ~Alan Watts. First, I suppose we should clarify what exactly a divided mind is. ...
Views: 587 - Birth of The Terrible Twins Within (Our Dualistic Minds) - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2016 from William CottringerBirth of The Terrible Twins Within (Our Dualistic Minds) By Bill Cottringer “If we never experience the chill of a dark winter, it is very unlikely that we will ever cherish the warmth of a bright summer’s day. Nothing stimulates our appetite for the simple joys of life more than the ...
Views: 604 - Freedom of Choice? - by Submitted on Sep 01, 2016 from William CottringerFreedom of Choice? By Bill Cottringer “Life is like a game of cards. The hand you are dealt is determinism; the way you play it is free will.” ~Jawaharlal Nehru A perennial philosophical debate that started with the early philosophers and gave birth to all the earlier theories of ...
Views: 517 - Ten Best Success Door Openers - by Submitted on Aug 25, 2016 from William CottringerTen Best Success Door Openers by Bill Cottringer “If you really want to do something, you will find a way. If you don’t, you will find an excuse.” ~Jim Rohn. There are lots of ways to find to do something or the excuses if you don’t. In the meantime, here are the best-known door ...
Views: 581 - Discussing Politics & Religion - by Submitted on Jul 22, 2016 from William CottringerDiscussing Politics & Religion By Bill Cottringer “Those who say religion has nothing to do with politics do not know what religion is.” ~Mahatma Gandhi. Just like the real reason for paying attention to the warnings of the Ten Commandments, being to help you avoid unnecessary pain, ...
Views: 707 - Three Paths to The Truth - by Submitted on Jul 16, 2016 from William CottringerThree Paths to The Truth By Bill Cottringer “I wouldn't give a fig for the simplicity on this side of complexity, but for the simplicity on the other side of complexity, I would give my life.” ~Oliver Wendell Holmes. As the above quote implies, there are but three main paths ...
Views: 610 - What Do You Have to Do to Feel The Way You Want to Feel? - by Submitted on Jul 05, 2016 from William CottringerWhat Do You Have to Do to Feel The Way You Want to Feel? By Bill Cottringer “There are things known and there are things unknown, and in between are the doors of perception.” ~Aldous Huxley. While this article title seems to be a rather straightforward question, I doubt that it is ...
Views: 475 - Two Tantamount Truths - by Submitted on Jun 22, 2016 from William CottringerTwo Tantamount Truths By Bill Cottringer “Conscience is no more than the dead speaking to us.” ~Jim Caroll There is no shortage of authors, books and movies about near death experiences, with over 5 million Internet works available. Authors like Moody, Jakoby and Greyson; books like ...
Views: 398 - Double Vision Decision-Making - by Submitted on May 07, 2016 from William CottringerDouble Vision Decision-Making By Bill Cottringer “Sometimes you make the right decision, sometimes you make the decision right.” ~Phil McGraw. Double vision decision-making is a very useful and valuable skill in maneuvering around in today’s plethora of information overload that ...
Views: 805 - What Is It About Henry or Mary? - by Submitted on Dec 16, 2015 from William CottringerWhat Is It About Henry or Mary? By Bill Cottringer “Defensiveness is usually someone silently screaming that they need you to value and respect them in disguise. When you look for deeper meanings behind someone’s pain you can then begin to heal not only yourself, but others.” ~Shannon L. ...
Views: 679 - Ten Best Ways to Build a Quality Work Culture - by Submitted on Dec 11, 2015 from William CottringerTen Best Ways to Build a Quality Work Culture By Dr. Bill Cottringer “To win in the marketplace, you must first win in the workplace.” ~Doug Conant, Campbell Soup. There has been a revolutionary interest in looking for ways to improve the quality of work environments, which lead ...
Views: 751 - Redefining Success: Seven New Super-Sized Success Secrets - by Submitted on Nov 25, 2015 from William CottringerRedefining Success: Seven New Super-Sized Success Secrets By Bill Cottringer “Success is simple. Do what's right, the right way, at the right time.” ~Arnold H. Glasow. There are literally thousands of good books and articles already available regarding what to do and how to do it, ...
Views: 699 - When Your Back is Against the Wall… - by Submitted on Oct 16, 2015 from William CottringerWhen Your Back is Against the Wall… by Bill Cottringer …Or when you are caught between a rock and hard place and can’t get any lower because you are already lower than a snake’s belly. This is a horrible place to be in life, but only the lucky few escape these painful experiences. Most of ...
Views: 862 - A Work Conflict Deserving a Thoughtful Resolution By Bill Cottringer - by Submitted on Oct 11, 2015 from William Cottringer“Peace is not absence of conflict, it is the ability to handle conflict by peaceful means” ~Ronald Reagan. The transition from the Manufacturing Age to the Information Age brought is a value revolution. The current values revolution has turned the traditional workplace upside down and ...
Views: 701(2 votes) - The Easiest Management Trap to Fall Into & The Hardest One to Avoid - by Submitted on Oct 05, 2015 from William CottringerThe Easiest Management Trap to Fall Into & The Hardest One to Avoid by Bill Cottringer “The first rule of business: Control the few controllables and manage the rest the best you can.” ~The author. This number one rule actually applies to both the public and private sectors equally ...
Views: 680 - Are There Still Differences Between Male and Female Psyches? - by Submitted on Aug 28, 2015 from William CottringerAre There Still Differences Between Male and Female Psyches? By Bill Cottringer After John Gray’s Book “Men Are From Mars and Women Are From Venus” came out decades ago, significant mental and emotional differences between the sexes explained many of the difficulties that caused ...
Views: 826 - Common Sense Or Good Sense? - by Submitted on Jul 07, 2015 from William CottringerCommon Sense Or Good Sense? By Bill Cottringer “Common sense in an uncommon degree is what the world calls wisdom.”― Samuel Taylor Coleridge. It seems to be a sad common consensus today that common sense is not so common anymore. But, the validity of that conclusion really depends ...
Views: 670 - “P” Point Photography: Seven Success Sources - by Submitted on May 06, 2015 from William Cottringer“P” Point Photography: Seven Success Sources By Bill Cottringer “Photography takes an instant out of time, altering life by holding it still.” ~Dorothea Lange Learning the art of good photography offers valuable life lessons that can bring success in other endeavors. Here are seven ...
Views: 669 - Lost in Translation - by Submitted on Apr 01, 2015 from William CottringerLost in Translation By Bill Cottringer Hagar the Horrible was giving worldly advice to his your Viking son. He says, “The secret of happiness is be content with what you got,” …so, he continues, “get enough.” ~Dik Browne. John married Mary, his high school sweetheart, and after 20 ...
Views: 721 - SEVEN COMMUNICATION PROBLEMS - by Submitted on Mar 27, 2015 from William CottringerSEVEN COMMUNICATION PROBLEMS By Bill Cottringer “The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place.” ~George Bernard Shaw. Communication, like time, is one of our most important resources, but is becoming less cost-effective in usage by the minute, ...
Views: 745 - “The Truth About Success That Most Of Us Need To Know.” - by Submitted on Feb 27, 2015 from William Cottringer“The Truth About Success That Most Of Us Need To Know.” By Bill Cottringer “To succeed in life you need two things: Ignorance and confidence.” ~Mark Twain. I have been an avid student of the success phenomenon for nearly 5 decades now, and the deeper I dig in studying this phenomenon, ...
Views: 792 - IF YOU CAN’T KEEP AN OPEN MIND, ARE YOU SURE YOU HAVE ONE? - by Submitted on Feb 01, 2015 from William CottringerIF YOU CAN’T KEEP AN OPEN MIND, ARE YOU SURE YOU HAVE ONE? BY Bill Cottringer “Being ignorant is not so much a shame, as being unwilling to learn.” ~Benjamin Franklin. Here are the few important realities in life that have held to be true long enough to be the exception to this ...
Views: 1150 - A New Year’s Resolution Worth Considering - by Submitted on Jan 05, 2015 from William CottringerA New Year’s Resolution Worth Considering By Bill Cottringer Normally, I am not one for making or suggesting good New Year’s resolutions, maybe because I have seen too many short-lived ones dissolving after just a few weeks. However, I am going to make an exception to my own rule this ...
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