Don’t think for a moment that you aren’t creative! You are creating your life right now, one day at a time. You have created our life as it is. Maybe not intentionally! But you have created it through the choices that you have made up until now. So, why not create the life you want? ... Views: 44
I was the keynote speaker at the Blind Merchants Association Convention. The organizer of the event asked me if I would attend the Women’s Breakfast and maybe say a few words about entrepreneurship. I eagerly agreed to do so.
I don’t know what I expected, but I didn’t expect the hotel to ... Views: 95
Negativity can really affect your life. It can lead to depression, cause health issues, and destroy your connections with others. Here are a few tips to help you eliminate the negativity in your life.
First, figure out what is triggering the negativity. Before you can eliminate it, you must ... Views: 103
Life is not easy. It’s downright hard. There are lots of troubles, irritations, and pain in life. Things happen! Things go wrong! People don’t always do what we want them to.
Don’t depend on other people for your happiness. Depend on yourself. Be who you are. Do the things you want to ... Views: 141
The minister at my church once told me “Worry is a form of prayer and the form most people practice often.” I’m sure he didn’t mean to be negative, but he wanted me to realize what people focus on is what they bring about. Worry is fear. Worry is a state of mind which is often brought on my ... Views: 163
You have a right and even a responsibility to be happy. Happiness is a state of mind. Many people let life pass them by because they choose to be unhappy. (Bet you are thinking, “Judi, people don’t choose to be unhappy. It just happens.) Wrong! People who sit around complaining, whining, ... Views: 226
Do you want to be more successful, but you just don’t know what you want or what you need to do? Are you just a little lost? No problem. It’s as easy as changing your thoughts. If you are going to be more successful, you must change any negative thoughts that you may be having into positive ... Views: 212
Giving up — even once — makes it easier and more acceptable to “just give up” again. When you give up, you damage your self-respect. You heart doesn’t listen to the excuses for quitting which are created by your mind. Your heart knows that when you quit — when you give up — a little piece of ... Views: 239
In life, you try one thing. It works. You try another. It doesn’t work. Instead of letting it paralyze you, do some self-analysis. What went right? What went wrong? What went right that could have gone wrong? What other possibilities are there? Then, do something differently. Be ... Views: 266
Most of us were taught we should be concerned about what others think about us and should seek their approval for all that we do. We sometimes hear a little voice in our head that actually says, “What will they think?” or “If you fail, you’ll look like a fool.”
I bet you can look back at ... Views: 321
This is a technique we use to examine all of the possibilities and potential solutions to a problem, without making judgments about any of these possibilities until we have exhausted all of our options.
Dr. Alex Osborn, the originator of the Brainstorming Technique, and co-founder of what was ... Views: 314
The secret to getting what you want is to believe it is possible. But how do you believe if you are unsure?
First, find out everything you can about what it is you want to try. Do your research. Find out what parts might be easy, what might be hard, what might be good, and what might be ... Views: 400
Today I borrowed a friend’s car (red corvette) to run some errands. I stopped at the service station to fill it up with gas. There was a very good looking young man getting gas as well. He asked me what year the car was. I replied that I didn’t know as it was a friend’s car. He then said, ... Views: 381
My business partner and I had a consulting job for a riverboat casino, One night as we were walking through the casino observing the customer service, we noticed one of the blackjack tables had approximately ten customers lined up waiting behind every chair. These customers were waiting for a ... Views: 397
Do you demand perfection from yourself? From others? Do you have to have the perfect spouse, children, house, car, furniture, clothing, jewelry? Do you have to live in the perfect neighborhood? Do you really believe things can be perfect? Will there ever be time to do things perfectly? ... Views: 422
Yes, you owe it to yourself to express your uniqueness. When you do this on a consistent basis, you will feel more complete. There’s no one else exactly like you. You are one very special individual who was created to be who you are…doing the best you can each day to get the best results life ... Views: 480
Do you criticize yourself? Do you say mean and disrespectful things to you? Do you look at yourself and think nasty things about who and what you are?
STOP IT! Stop talking to yourself in a negative voice. And, stop talking to others about your negative traits. The more you concentrate ... Views: 501
My dad was a successful salesman. He carried a little spiral notebook with his appointments, notes to himself, important names and numbers. One day, he dropped the notebook on the floor and when it fell open, I saw it had gold stars pasted on most of the pages. I asked him why a grown man ... Views: 550
Are you a person who needs things to be perfect? Do you try to have a perfectly clean house, perfectly spotless car, perfect kids, perfect spouse, perfect hair style, perfect wardrobe? Does absolutely everything of yours need to be perfect?
If so, you are not only putting a lot of pressure ... Views: 513
Let's face it! Life is not always easy, and for some of us, depression very often takes over, We get depressed when we are discouraged or disappointed in ourselves or our lives. We start to feel as though we can’t live up to the expectations of others….or even our own expectations. We feel ... Views: 632
Most people enjoy people showing an interest in them. I know I do. But, there are some people who just have to be the center of attention. They talk incessantly about themselves, their accomplishments, what they own, who they know, where they have been, and even, the illnesses they have ... Views: 518
Recently, I was sitting next to a woman at a meeting who turned to me and said, “Do you know any good gossip about any of these people here? I just love to hear the dirt on everyone.” Wow! What a way to go through life…looking for negativity and what she could find wrong with others and their ... Views: 503
When I was a child, I had a favorite cousin, Bobbie. She was pretty, smart, kind, and really fun to be around. We always looked forward to spending time together.
As we grew older, we lived in different cities and didn’t get to see each other so often. I lived closer to my grandmother than ... Views: 512
Most of our beliefs about ourselves have come from outside sources: people, education, and experiences. Many of us have allowed the opinions of others to become our opinions of ourselves. We’ve listened to people tell us things about ourselves and then we’ve internalized, processed, and ... Views: 580
Why is it that having confidence in ourselves and our abilities is so hard? Why do so many of us have the tendency to overestimate others and underestimate ourselves? And, why are we so concerned about what other people think about us?
I believe if we are ever going to be able to answer ... Views: 552
You could say that in life we are motivated by two basic forces – love and fear. Love opens us to the passion and excitement that love has to offer, while fear causes us to withdraw from life and hide away, terrified of hurt and pain. John Lennon said something along these lines and noted that ... Views: 844
When looking for inspiration, there are countless different techniques you can use and a wide variety of different strategies that have been used by other creative individuals throughout history. One of the most exciting and unusual of these is largely forgotten and no longer widely used. ... Views: 883
One of the common desires that people experience in their lives is summed up in a well-known saying – “I want to thrive, not just survive.” This can also be interpreted as enjoying life as opposed to simply existing. When there is a deep need for people to change their way of life, the world has ... Views: 785
Most of us would do just about anything to prevent that terrible feeling of being out of control… but in life, it’s unavoidable. At times, uncertainty isn’t just unsettling, it’s crippling. However, it’s vital for growth and when you find yourself faced with a change or period in your life that ... Views: 840
Negativity can really affect your life. It can lead to depression, cause health issues, and destroy your connections with others. Here are a few tips to help you eliminate the negativity in your life.
1. First, figure out what is triggering the negativity. Before you can eliminate it, you ... Views: 849
There are worlds of possibilities and yet many of us never see them because we don’t think they are possible for us. We think things would be nice to have, or to do, but then we think, “Those thing aren’t for people like me.”discover your possibilities
Don’t waste the time you have. Start ... Views: 952
Goal setting is the key that unlocks the door to positive self-esteem. The feeling of accomplishment gained through goal attainment is highly rewarding. This feeling fuels you to continue pursuing and achieving other worthwhile goals.
Goals are dreams with a deadline; therefore they connect ... Views: 860
Throughout my 25+ years of public speaking and training, there is one question that I get asked more than any other. That question is “How do I say No?” Why do we have trouble with this? When we were children, we didn’t have a problem with it. It is only as we have grown older that we can’t ... Views: 773
When the nightly news is filled with the major tragedies of today, it is very hard to stay positive and upbeat. Even if these terrible things weren’t done to us or to someone we love, they still affect us. They are all around us. They are being done to people who are like us, who have ... Views: 1046
Some time back I received this letter from one of my clients. It so touched my heart, I decided to share it with you. I take it out and read it from time to time as it reminds me how important doing little things are in our lives.
Dear Judi:little things
My Grandson, Tristen was ... Views: 914
Whenever I see a fresh picked vegetable, the earth freshly turned, or observe the many beautiful flowers in her garden, I remember those special days when she would punish me for something rotten I had done by making me work in the garden next to her. As we planted the seeds, she was planting ... Views: 932
Do you find that there are certain hours of the day when you feel depleted of energy? Would you like to remain “revved up”, clear-headed, alert, and ready for anything all day long?
Most of us experience our highest energy levels during the first four hours of the day when we are refreshed ... Views: 935
Looking to find inspiration for the next great novel? For your musical masterpiece? For your next business idea? Often, the best way to find it is just to go for a walk: an ‘inspiration walk’!finding inspiration
What is an Inspiration Walk?
The idea behind an ‘inspiration walk’ is to leave ... Views: 842
Most of us would admit to finding a sunset somewhat moving, and possibly, inspirational. Few of us can walk past a beautifully red and purple sky without stopping to take a look and maybe even upload a picture to Instagram. The same can be said of star-filled skies and crashing waves.
But, ... Views: 1234
Communication skills encompass a variety of strategies and techniques that aid interpersonal interactions. When you are communicating effectively, it facilitates information sharing, perspective-taking and genuine understanding.communication
However, breakdowns in communication happen in all ... Views: 981
Nowadays, criticism has such a negative connotation that most people automatically react poorly to the term itself, without even thinking about its benefits. People think that the phrase “constructive criticism” is something people made up so they could put a positive swing on bashing your ... Views: 1125
People hear the word “criticism” and they almost automatically flinch. Their hearts beat a little faster and they prepare themselves for the worst. It’s a safe bet that those same people never looked up synonyms for the word “criticism.” If they did, they’d see words like appreciation, ... Views: 891
Think about a time in your life when someone criticized something you did and it really affected you. Perhaps it came at a time when you were already feeling down, and it really hurt you. You probably said to yourself, "Why would someone say that? That's just mean." Perhaps you even allowed ... Views: 891
Have you ever wondered why certain other people seem to you to be so confident, personable and successful! They seem to receive an inordinate share of attention, approval and love. Some of them are beautiful, some are not; some are easy going, some are not. You may even wonder what secret ... Views: 966
Criticism, for many people, carries the same meaning as judgment. In fact, one of the top synonyms of criticism is judgment. And, one of the top synonyms of critic is judge. No wonder people have such a hard time with this term! Who wants to be judged? Obviously, people get defensive when ... Views: 821
If you have ever looked in the mirror and were immediately disappointed with what you saw, then you are a victim of low self-esteem. Being disappointed by your appearance can ruin your whole day or even your whole life. It causes unnecessary stress and sadness that can easily be avoided if you ... Views: 877
Perfection is the state of being flawless or lacking in any errors. Perfection is a state of mind that is completely unachievable. This is because perfection can’t be measured and is up to interpretation by each individual. You might believe one person is perfect when they think they are the ... Views: 860
One of the common desires that people experience in their lives is summed up as a well-known saying – “I want to thrive, not just survive.” This can also be interpreted as enjoying life as opposed to simply existing. When there is a deep need for a person to change his way of life, the world has ... Views: 1054
Something that humans enjoy is having control – we would do just about anything to prevent that terrible feeling of uncertainty… but in life, it’s unavoidable. At times, uncertainty isn’t just unsettling, it’s crippling. However, it’s vital for growth and when you find yourself faced with a ... Views: 1049
You could say that in life we are motivated by two basic forces – love and fear. Love opens us to the passion and excitement that love has to offer, while fear causes us to withdraw from life and hide away, terrified of hurt and pain. You can’t live life to the fullest with fear. John Lennon ... Views: 889