It’s never easy getting over a breakup.

Losing someone we love is painful and hard. It’s probably one of the worse feelings, right next to losing someone we love. In this case, it’s not an actual death, but a loss of the person’s presence in our life. Thousands of people grieve months or years after a devastating breakup and often wonder whether their ex-partner will come back, even months after a breakup.

Exes can come back, and if you’re reading this, your ex has probably already tried reaching out. It’s human nature, after all, not to fully grasp what we have until it’s gone. Usually, we need to lose something to feel how bad we really wanted it. There’s also the universal truth that humans tend to appreciate things that they don’t have. But is getting back together with your ex a good a thing?

It can be. But it also can be hard to know whether the relationship is worth revisiting, especially in the muddled time just following a breakup. You might be feeling lonely without your former best friend by your side, but taking the time to heal and to reflect, will ensure that if or when your ex does come back, you have weighed the pros and cons of your relationship without any emotional bias.

If you are hoping that your ex will reach out or if your ex has already reached out, then keep reading to find out if revisiting a relationship with them is even worth it.

1. You Had A Good Relationship

There’s no perfect relationship. All relationships go through some struggle. But all in all, there was honesty, respect, trust and communication.

2. You Have Children Together

If you have kids together, giving your relationship another chance is worth a shot. However, this only applies if your relationship possessed the fundamental basics in point # 1. Nothing is worse for a child than having to grow up in a toxic environment.

3. Circumstances

A lot of times, people breakup simply because of circumstances beyond their control. In these cases, then it’s worth trying to get back together if things have changed.

4. You’re Not Romanticizing The Relationship

Often, we want nothing more than to have our ex-partner come back to us, causing us to be stuck in the obsessive loop of why and what if. Here is where you need to get clear because the hardest part of getting over a relationship is often not the loss of the actual person, but the loss of the fantasy of what you thought could have been.


Healing after a breakup isn’t easy. It’s hard. It’s so hard that our brains start ignoring the problems that resulted in the break and instead only focus almost obsessively on the good times. A breakup is an incredible opportunity for reinvention. Taking the time to heal and to reflect, will ensure that if or when your ex does come back, you’re clear and ready.

Author's Bio: 

Lesley Madden is 40 something year old mother of two that also looks after her aging parents. She’s seen it all and looks forward to sharing her family health stories