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Snapshot Management: Leaders under the Spotlight Use Emotional Intelligence - By Reldan Nadler- Qi Gong Has Many Benefits - by Submitted on Sep 17, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperAround three months ago I started practicing Qi Gong, and, as I mentioned in a previous article, this was something that I had heard about quite some time ago. When I look back on what I have gained from doing it about once a week since I first started, I can say that it has been time well ...
Views: 10 - Manifestation: Do Some People’s Childhoods Make It Harder For Them To Manifest A Fulfilling Reality? - by Submitted on Sep 17, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that it is not just someone’s thoughts that influence their reality; it is also their feelings. Therefore, it is going to be essential for them to pay attention to what is taking place in their mind, along with what is going on in their body, and to make sure that they are not ...
Views: 15 - Don't Worry, Be Happy (Managing Stress) - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2018 from Kare AndersonHere are five fairly simple to take some of the stress out of your life. They don’t always work, yet what does? 1. Problems seldom exist at the level they're expressed. To resolve some conflicts, look for the problem that underlies what you're discussing. Ask yourself where the actual ...
Views: 75 - Critical Thinking: Would The World Be Better If It Was Run By Women? - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperOver the years, numerous people have said that the world would be a far better place if it was no longer run men. In their eyes, a world run by women would lead to a world that is far better for everyone. When someone has this view, they can see men as being one way and women as being ...
Views: 20 - Boundaries: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Say Yes All The Time? - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone wants to do something, they can say yes, and, if they don’t, they can say no. Both of these words are going to be important; one word won’t be more important than the other. When someone can use both of these words, there will be no reason for them to have the tendency to ignore ...
Views: 23 - Critical Thinking: Should Everyone Be Able To Vote? - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperEver since it became clear that the United Kingdom would withdraw from the European Union, a lot of people have said that not everyone should be able to vote. Unsurprisingly, this is a viewpoint that appears to be primarily held by the people who wanted the United Kingdom to stay in the European ...
Views: 20 - “You Don’t Have The Luxury Of Giving Up” - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperI remember reading ‘The Power of Others’ whilst I was in London towards the end of 2014, and there were a few things that I made a note of. In the chapter that I was reading at this time, the author touched upon how it is easier for someone to be curious when they are not caught up in trying to ...
Views: 35 - What is Repetition Compulsion? - by Submitted on Sep 10, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperAt the beginning of the year I spoke about a time in my life when I was speaking to Vijay Rana, an integral therapist, about projection. This article was titled,’ “There Is A Reason Why We Project Our Issues Onto Others!” In this article I said that we also spoke about repetition compulsion ...
Views: 38 - Emotionally Disconnected: Do Some People’s Childhoods Set Them Up To Disconnect From Their Emotions? - by Submitted on Sep 08, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that if human beings were unable to experience emotions, it would to lead to a very bleak existence. This is, in part, due to the fact that it would cause them to feel dead inside and this would make it hard for them to feel connected to anything. Emotions are what allow ...
Views: 51 - Inner Conflict: Can Someone’s Split-Off Parts Cause Them To Experience Inner Conflict? - by Submitted on Sep 07, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperThe ideal would be for someone to get a clear idea about what they want to achieve and then to go about achieving it, without there being anything within them that would hold them back. After all, they will have enough to deal with externally without there being anything internally to ...
Views: 47 - Breathe It In - by Submitted on Sep 06, 2018 from Sheryl PaulThese are words I find myself saying multiple times a day: to my clients, to my sons, to myself. Breathe it in. We see a prairie dog hit by a car lying on the side of the road. I turn to look at my son’s face to see if he sees it. As we live in a rural area, he’s learned over the years of ...
Views: 35 - A 24-Hour Challenge - by Submitted on Sep 06, 2018 from Sheryl PaulIn 2008, shortly after we moved from Los Angeles to Denver with our two-year old son, I adopted a weekly ritual in honor of the Jewish sabbath: to shut down my computer for twenty-four hours. This was before the era of smartphones and before I was pouring my energy into my online business daily, ...
Views: 33 - Emotionally Dependent: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Be Emotionally Dependent On Others? - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for someone to be able to express their true-self, it will be essential for them to be an integrated human being. What this means is that their mind (thoughts), heart (emotions) and body (instincts) will generally work together. Through being this way, they will be in touch with ...
Views: 58 - Critical Thinking: Does The Prevalence Of The Entitlement Mentality Show How Out Of Balance The West Has Become? - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperThe mainstream media routinely covers stories that go into how someone believes that they should receive something without having to work for it. Yet, if it doesn’t relate to one person, it will relate to a group of people. Thanks to identity politics, just about everyone has been put into ...
Views: 53 - Vulnerability: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Have A Fear Of Being Vulnerable? - by Submitted on Sep 03, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that in order for someone to grow and to develop, they will need to feel comfortable with being vulnerable. The reason for this is that if someone has the need to protect themselves, they are not going to open themselves up to life. Their main priority will be to do ...
Views: 50 - Emotional Awareness: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Be Emotionally Reactive? - by Submitted on Sep 01, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is emotionally settled, it is going to be a lot easier for them to think clearly. As a result of this, they will be able to decide how they will behave, meaning that they will be able to act like a conscious human being. Not only will this allow them to make better decisions, it ...
Views: 62 - Victim Energy: Do Some People Have A Victim Energy? - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some people who believe that the whole world is against them, while there are others who have a slightly different outlook. When it comes to the latter, someone will have at least one area of their life where they feel powerless. However, if another area of their life started to ...
Views: 78(1 vote) - Emotional Awareness: Are Your Split-Off Parts Controlling How You Feel? - by Submitted on Aug 30, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperEmotions are often seen as an inconvenience - as things that do more harm than good. And, when someone has this outlook, they are likely to experience a lot of ‘negative’ emotions. Consequently, they may alternative between being overwhelmed by how they feel and disconnecting from how they ...
Views: 63 - True-Self: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Be Preoccupied With Feeling Safe? - by Submitted on Aug 29, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often believed that self-esteem is the defining factor when it comes to how someone experiences life. So, if someone has a good amount of it there life will be fulfilling; whereas if they don’t their life won’t be. On one side will be someone who is living a life that is deeply ...
Views: 89 - True-Self: Is Your Life Being Controlled By Your Split-Off Parts? - by Submitted on Aug 28, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperThere are people who are generally able to achieve what they set their mind on and there are others who aren’t. When it comes to the former, it is going to be a lot easier for them to make progress and to move forward with their life. Their life will change as the years go by - stopping ...
Views: 68 - Do Other People Make Us Feel Stressed? - by Submitted on Aug 27, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperEarlier on, whilst I was out in a populated area, I overheard someone say to another person that they “stressed them out”. I had no idea why they said this to them, but there must have been a reason for it. It would be easy to conclude that the other person was behaving in a way that was ...
Views: 103 - Self-Image: Is Our Life Defined By How We See Ourselves? - by Submitted on Aug 26, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to a car, for instance, there is only going to be such much that it can do. So, how fast it can go or where it can be driven will all depend on what type of car it is. If someone wanted to change how fast a car can go or where it can go, it would need to undergo a number of ...
Views: 77 - Critical Thinking: Is Ancestral Trauma Dividing Men And Women? - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperOne of the things that the mainstream likes to is to do portray all women as victims and all men as perpetrators. There are men and women who are happy to go along with this and there are men are women who are not. And regardless of whether someone is happy to go along with how the ...
Views: 62 - You Don't Come Through The World, The World Comes Through You - by Submitted on Aug 23, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I was speaking to Ben Ralston a number of weeks ago, he mentioned something that really made me think. Ben is a therapist and trainer of therapists, healer, advanced Sivananda Yoga teacher, and writer. We were talking about the self-image and he ended up touching upon a book that he had ...
Views: 80 - Personal Power: Do Some Peoples Childhood Set Them Up Believe That They Are Powerless? - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperHaving a sense of personal power will be the only thing that some people have ever known; while there will be others who will only know what it feels like to feel totally powerless. Therefore, even though both types of people will live on the same planet, it will be as if they live on separate ...
Views: 80 - Critical Thinking: Is Being Offended A Way For Someone To Feel Significant? - by Submitted on Aug 21, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperNot a day goes by where hundreds, if not thousands, of people are not offended about something. This is something that can happen after they have watched a video or read something, for instance. And in addition to being offended themselves, they can also end up being offended on behalf of ...
Views: 58 - Emotional Awareness: Do Some People's Childhood Set Them Up To Ignore Their Own Pain? - by Submitted on Aug 19, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIn the same way that a light will usually appear on the dashboard of a car when something isn’t right, someone will usually experience pain when something is not right. Through paying attention to this pain, they will be able to do something about it. On the one hand, there will be physical ...
Views: 75 - You Are The Light At The End Of The Tunnel! - by Submitted on Aug 18, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperA number of months ago I was talking to my friend Wain about how important it is keep gong and not to give up. After this I think I said that if we do this, the light at the end of the tunnel will appear. He went on to share something that one of his friends had said to him around his ...
Views: 67 - Critical Thinking: Should People Be Punished For What Their Ancestors Did? - by Submitted on Aug 18, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, it is not unusual for someone to believe that certain people should be punished for what their ancestors did. When someone has this view, it can be due to what they have picked up from the education system and the mainstream media. This doesn’t mean that someone like this will ...
Views: 68 - Critical Thinking: Do We Need To Stop Using The Term ‘Mental Illness’? - by Submitted on Aug 16, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is in a position where their inner world is generally out of control, for instance, they may believe that they have mental health problems. This could have taken place after they did some research online, or it could be the result of what their doctor has said to them. Then again, ...
Views: 62 - Being Seen: Can The Fear Of Being Seen Stop Someone From Reaching Out For Support? - by Submitted on Aug 12, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that a big part of success is simply turning up, and this shows how important it is to take the first step. If the first step is not taken, it won’t be possible for someone to get the ball rolling, so to speak. What typically stops someone from taking the first step is fear, ...
Views: 69 - The One Essential Question that Lives Inside Relationship Anxiety - by Submitted on Aug 11, 2018 from Sheryl PaulOne of the most challenging elements of relationship anxiety to understand is that, if you’re in a healthy, loving relationship with no red flags, the anxiety is projection. This means that the parade of intrusive thoughts that tortures the anxious mind and sensitive soul are actually pointing ...
Views: 120 - It's Hard Being Human - by Submitted on Aug 11, 2018 from Sheryl PaulAt least once a day the phrase “it’s hard being human” enters my brain. It usually arrives on the heels of my sons arguing with each other and me trying to teach them how to communicate more effectively. As a result of feeling hurt, one will lash out at the other, and before we know it the great ...
Views: 75 - Who Sits at the Head of Your Table? - by Submitted on Aug 11, 2018 from Sheryl PaulIn last week’s post, I wrote about the essential task of attending to our four realms of Self in order to find wellness and equanimity, and that in order to do this we need to have a loving, competent and clear inner parent at the helm of psyche. Just as kids feel safe when there’s an attuned ...
Views: 108 - Loneliness is a Part of Life - by Submitted on Aug 11, 2018 from Sheryl PaulOne of the biggest obstacles to finding more wellness and equanimity is the belief that we shouldn’t be feeling what we’re feeling; that if we were more evolved or healed or with a different partner we wouldn’t feel so ________ (anxious, depressed, lonely, confused, empty, bored). Because we ...
Views: 75 - Critical Thinking: Is Being Able To Cause Offence Part Of Free Speech? - by Submitted on Aug 10, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperThe mainstream media often talks about people who have caused offence and how these people need to apologise for what they have done. Additionally, it is not uncommon for people in the public eye also say this. Based on this, offending someone is tantamount to physically harming them. So, in ...
Views: 66 - Being Present: Can The Fear Of Being Seen Stop Someone From Being Able To Be Present? - by Submitted on Aug 08, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperNumerous books have been written about the importance of being present and how to be present. These kinds of books can go into how the body is always in the moment but the mind, on the other hand, is always trying to be somewhere else. When someone is in the present moment, there is nothing ...
Views: 76 - Critical Thinking: Does The West’s Obsession With Tolerance Show How Out Of Balance It Has Become? - by Submitted on Aug 07, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, a day rarely goes by when someone in the public eye won’t talk about how important it is to be tolerant. This is often seen as the ultimate value to have; it is as though it is the answer to most, if not all, problems. Therefore, the more that people are willing to allow ...
Views: 66 - Steps to Performing a Balance Transfer - by Submitted on Aug 07, 2018 from Tori UtleyThe card providers never fail to send the credit card offers which may already be piling in a box, if this is the case, you can take advantage of the balance transfer to get rid of your credit card debt. The first thing to do is identifying the best options first which can be found online. ...
Views: 45 - Masculinity: Can The Fear Of Being Harmed Cause Someone To Disconnect From Their Masculine Aspect? - by Submitted on Aug 07, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIt is not uncommon for someone to be in a position where they find it hard to stand their ground. Therefore, instead of assertive themselves when it is necessary, they just allow other people to walk over them. Along with this, they may have the tendency to say yes when they would rather say ...
Views: 71 - HOW TO ”LET GO” …OF THE ROPE (Part 1) - by Submitted on Aug 03, 2018 from James Mapes“In the beginning, it is difficult letting go. But as you get into the swing of it, you will feel lighter and fresher and better able to see what you really need. That is what I imagine spring cleaning is truly about.” —SUSAN JEFFERS, END THE STRUGGLE AND DANCE WITH LIFE FYI: (The ...
Views: 85 - Critical Thinking: Does The Establishment Want To Destroy Masculinity? - by Submitted on Aug 03, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone pays attention to the mainstream media on a regular basis, they may have heard the term ‘toxic masculinity’. And even if they don’t pay attention to this source of information, they may have still heard this term. This could be because they are at university or have been there in ...
Views: 75 - Critical Thinking: Why Do Some People Want To Save The World? - by Submitted on Aug 01, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, it is not uncommon for someone to act as though it is their purpose to save the world. The world is then going to be in a mess and it will be up to them to do something about it. This could be something that will consume their whole life, meaning that it will be hard for them to ...
Views: 103 - Healing: Is The Masculine Aspect Important When It Comes To Healing? - by Submitted on Jul 31, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is carrying pain that needs to be faced and acknowledged, and this pain is avoided, it can lead to a whole host of problems. There can be the effect it has on their mind, emotional body, and their physical body. As a result of this, this pain is naturally going to play a big ...
Views: 84 - Relationships: Who Do Some People Focus On Other People’s Problems? - by Submitted on Jul 29, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperEven though one will have their own life to lead while they are on this planet, it doesn’t mean that they will actually have their own life. Instead, they could end up spending most of their tine focusing on other people’s problems. When this takes place, they could end up being seen as ...
Views: 93 - When Anxious, Start at the Beginning - by Submitted on Jul 27, 2018 from Sheryl PaulAnxiety is a messenger, a symptom, and a gift. I know that statement flies in the face of everything we learn about anxiety in a culture that is pathologically obsessed with eradicating shadow at every turn and consequently attempts to “get rid of” the symptom of anxiety as quickly and cleanly ...
Views: 154 - If I'm Calm Now Is It Still Relationship Anxiety? - by Submitted on Jul 27, 2018 from Sheryl PaulThere is often a predictable arc to relationship anxiety that includes three stages.* The first stage is characterized by typical symptoms of anxiety and panic: Can’t sleep Can’t eat Tearful Depressed Bolting awake in the middle of the night Difficulty functioning at work Fluttering ...
Views: 118 - Conversations with my Seven Year Old: In the Fear Forest - by Submitted on Jul 27, 2018 from Sheryl PaulOne of the blessings of having a second child is that we, as parents, gain some skills by walking with the first one through predictable stages of growth, maturity, illness, and emotional challenges. When our firstborn had a high fever, we panicked. When the younger one has a fever, it’s old ...
Views: 60 - Black Panther: Did ‘Black Panther’ Emphasize How Important It Is To Heal Ancestral Trauma? - by Submitted on Jul 26, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen ‘Black Panther’ came out earlier on in the year, I heard that it was a really good film. A few friends of mine said it was good and one of them said that they were willing to see it again if I wanted to go. I didn’t go to the cinema in the end and I ended up forgetting all about the ...
Views: 83 - Critical Thinking: Did The Establishment Set Up The Alternative Media? - by Submitted on Jul 24, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone wants to find out about what is going on in the world, they might end up looking towards the alternative media. This can be seen as the only news source that does what it is supposed to do – to report on what is actually going on. It might then be accurate to say that this person ...
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