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Snapshot Management: Leaders under the Spotlight Use Emotional Intelligence - By Reldan Nadler- Critical Thinking: A Closer Look At The ‘I Speak My Truth in #MyCalvins’ Advert - by Submitted on May 18, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIn the latest ad campaign by Calvin Klein, so-called celebrities are talking about how they speak their truth in their Calvin’s. A number of the people in the video say “I speak my truth in my Calvin’s.” Now, if someone hadn’t heard of Calvin Klein underwear before, they might feel the need ...
Views: 23 - “The Wisdom of Anxiety” is Coming Down the Birth Canal - by Submitted on May 17, 2019 from Sheryl PaulIn April 2015, I had a dream while on vacation in Los Angeles: Robert Johnson, the Jungian analyst who has informed so much of my work, came to me and said, “It’s time to write another book and it’s mostly written.” I woke up, faithfully wrote it down as I do with most of my dreams, then filed ...
Views: 24 - Intrusive Thought: “I Have to be Single In Order to Heal” - by Submitted on May 17, 2019 from Sheryl PaulIt’s a thought that arises frequently for those struggling with relationship anxiety: “I have to be single in order to heal.” Offshoots and extrapolations of this thought sound like: • “I have to backpack by myself across Europe.” • “I have to live in a loft in New York.” • “I haven’t ...
Views: 26 - This is What it Takes to Heal from Shame and Anxiety - by Submitted on May 17, 2019 from Sheryl PaulWhen I was in graduate school twenty-five years ago, we learned many essential principles and tools for becoming a skilled healer in the counseling arts. We thoroughly covered various modalities, including the depth psychological perspective that informs all of my work, and spent countless hours ...
Views: 29 - You Need To Leave The Past Behind! - by Submitted on May 17, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperThe other day I came across a quote that went into how someone’s past needs to be left in the past; if it isn’t, it will destroy their future. The final point was that they need to live for today, not to be caught up in what happened yesterday. One way of looking at this quote would be to ...
Views: 31 - Denial Is Like A Parasite That Takes Over Someone's Mind - by Submitted on May 16, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperLike most defence mechanisms that can be utilised, denial can make it easier for someone to function on this planet. By denying something, it can stop them from having to feel bad about themselves, allowing them to avoid pain. Their view of themselves will then be protected and this will ...
Views: 23 - You Need To Stop Trying To Save/Rescue Others! - by Submitted on May 16, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperJust because super heroes are not real people, it doesn’t mean that some people don’t try to mimic them in the real world. When this takes place, someone can have the tendency to try to save/rescue others. These are unlikely to be people who are stuck in a burning building or who are about ...
Views: 28 - You Need To Start Saying No! - by Submitted on May 15, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find is that it is hard for them to say no, having the tendency to do things that they would rather not do. If this is the case, there is the chance that they have behaved in this way for a little while. Maybe they have been this way for as long they can remember. As a ...
Views: 40 - You Need To Raise Your Self-Esteem! - by Submitted on May 14, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, it is not uncommon for someone to be told that they have ‘low self-esteem’, that’s if their life is a certain way and/or if they behave in a certain way. The same thing could also be said if they experience a lot of ‘negative’ thoughts. So, someone may find that it is ...
Views: 31 - Love Says "Relax!" - by Submitted on May 13, 2019 from Mary HorsmanSometimes I find myself more uptight than I’d like. Does that ever happen to you? Well, the more and more I focus on Love, I hear it speaking to me more and more clearly. Usually, it seems to say something to the effect of, “Relax, Mary Anne!” Wonderfully, it is a key phrase that my ...
Views: 37 - Emotional Self: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up Disconnect From Their Emotional Self? - by Submitted on May 13, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough human beings are made up of many different selves, such as an intellectual and an emotional self, it doesn’t mean that everyone on this planet is in touch with each of these selves. If someone is in touch with each part of themselves, it could be said that they will be operating as a ...
Views: 36 - Refresh Your Ecommerce Business - by Submitted on May 14, 2019 from Yogesh guptaThe e-commerce industry can be a challenge. That's why it's important to keep up your website to ensure you're attracting your audience and helping them find the products and services they're looking for. This can provide them with a positive experience so they'll return the next time they want ...
Views: 32 - Critical Thinking: Are Mental Health Problems Out Of Control Because People Are Talking About Their Feelings? - by Submitted on May 13, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIn recent years, a lot has been said about how important it is for people to open up about how they feel. This is often put forward as a way for someone to handle the pain that arises within them. In the past, however, it was radically different as people’s inner problems were generally ...
Views: 58 - True-Self: Can Someone Lose Touch With Their True-Self If They Disconnect From Their Feelings? - by Submitted on May 10, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for someone to be in touch with all of their feelings, they will need to be in touch with their body. The reason for this is that their feelings are primarily found in their body, not their head. Ergo, if someone has a good connection with their body, it will allow them to connect ...
Views: 47 - Self-Development: Can Self-Development Cause Someone To Become Even More Disconnected From Themselves? - by Submitted on May 09, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperBy the time that someone gets into self-development, there is the chance that they won’t have a very good connection with themselves. What this means is that they might not have a strong connection with their true essence or their feelings. But even if this is the case, it doesn’t mean that ...
Views: 39 - Be Careful What You Consume! - by Submitted on May 07, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperA lot has been said over the years about how important it is for someone to make sure that they don’t just put anything into their mouth. A common phrase is ‘you are what you eat’. What these messages can do is cause someone to believe that is that the only thing they need to think about is ...
Views: 37 - Adrenalin: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Be Addicted To Adrenaline? - by Submitted on May 07, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone wanted to get an idea of what it is like to experience adrenalin, they could imagine what it would be like if ten people were running after them. Not only will their body be in fight or flight mode, they will also experience a surge of energy and feel alive. What plays a part in ...
Views: 56 - Why do Some Dreams Feel So Real? - by Submitted on May 06, 2019 from M Nasir AzizBelieve it or not, most of you dream every night, even though the details might slip away the moment you wake up. Most dreams are pretty mundane. Some people dream about the person they miss, or about the things they desire deeply. While a few stories in your head can be funny or ...
Views: 85 - You Need To Stop Caring About What Others Think! - by Submitted on May 05, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that is often said by people in the self-development world is that it is important not to care about what other people think. This is not the only area where this is said, though, as there are plenty of pages on social media where quotes are shared that have the same message. ...
Views: 110 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Believe That They Are Not Enough? - by Submitted on May 04, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone believes that they are not enough, it can end up having a big affect on just about every area of their life. One area in particular that this can impact is their romantic relationships. However, just because someone has this view of themselves, it doesn’t mean that they are aware ...
Views: 62 - Personal Power: Can Someone Feel Powerless If Their Lower Body Is Shut Down? - by Submitted on May 03, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone has a sense of personal power, they will most likely feel as though they have control over their life. This doesn’t mean that everything will go how they want it to go, though; far from it. But, even when something doesn’t go to plan, it doesn’t mean that this will cause them to ...
Views: 68 - Attention Seeking: Does Someone Need To Develop Their Adult Self If They Constantly Seek Attention? - by Submitted on May 02, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough attention is something that everyone needs, there are some people who need more attention than others. As a result of this, the amount of attention that will be enough for one person won’t be enough for another. And what has made it easier for someone to receive attention is social ...
Views: 126 - Approval Seeking: Does Someone Need To Develop Their Adult Self If They Look To Others For Approval? - by Submitted on May 01, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperThe great Lao Tzu once said, “Care about what other people think and you will always be their prisoner.” This was something that was said many, many years ago, but it is just as relevant today. However, while someone could read this quote and see how true it is, it doesn’t mean that it will ...
Views: 61 - Critical Thinking: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Believe That The World Is Going To End? - by Submitted on Apr 30, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperUnless someone lives in a cave and has very little connection with the outside world, there is a strong chance that they will have heard a lot of people talk about the environment recently. In addition to this, they may have also heard about what needs to happen in order for the planet to be ...
Views: 73 - Emotional Support: Why Are Some People Out Of Touch With Their Own Emotional Support? - by Submitted on Apr 29, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIn the same way that a rocket won’t go anywhere without fuel, the same could be said when it comes to a human being. Without energy, they won’t be able to even lift a finger, let alone take action. Howerver, while a rocket will just need one type of fuel to get moving, a human being will ...
Views: 66 - To All Those Working Through Their Inner Wounds, I Salute You! - by Submitted on Apr 28, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperA little while ago, I heard from someone who had had a childhood that was anything but nurturing. This was someone who I hadn’t seen for a number of years. Although I didn’t know much about them, I was still surprised when they told me this. What surprised me even more, though, was that ...
Views: 50 - Critical Thinking: Is ‘Climate Change’ Just Another Way For The Establishment To Enslave Humanity? - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIn recent weeks, a lot of ‘activists’ have been holding up traffic and laying on the ground, amongst other things, in order to get their point across. To these people, it is crystal clear that the planet is not in a good way, which is why they are going out of their way to get this point across ...
Views: 73 - Energy Vampires: Why Are Some People Energy Vampires? - by Submitted on Apr 26, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are going to be plenty of people will know what a vampire is, it is unlikely that the same amount of people are going know what an energy vampire is. Yet, even though there is the chance that not many people will know about the latter, it doesn’t mean that they haven’t come across as ...
Views: 67 - Critical Thinking: Is It Easy For The Media To Manipulate People's Emotions? - by Submitted on Apr 25, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that the mainstream media doesn’t need to prove that what they sell is the truth in order to influence people; the only thing that it needs to do is to make sure that people see the information. What this comes down to is that once someone has been exposed to a certain view, it ...
Views: 74 - There Is More To Trauma Than Just Painful Memories - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperTowards the end of 2012, I came to the conclusion that if I could change what was going on in my mind my life would change. The outcome of this was that I ended up having hypnotherapy. I was in a lot of emotional pain at this time and I had no idea what inner peace was like. A little while ...
Views: 93 - The Problem With The Golden Rule - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperOver the years, I have heard people say that we should treat others as we would like to be treated, and this is something that I agree with. However, while it is easy to say this, it is not as easy to put it into practice. This is then similar to how someone can say that they no longer want ...
Views: 81 - Presence: Can Someone's Inner Wounds Stop Them From Being Able To Be Present? - by Submitted on Apr 18, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperA lot has been said about how important it is to be present, with there being a number of benefits to living in the moment. For one thing, being present will allow one to embrace what is taking place in the now and to fully show up. Through being able to do this, it will be a lot easier for ...
Views: 91 - Relationships: Why Do Some Men Want A Mother Figure? - by Submitted on Apr 17, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperJust because a man looks like a man, it doesn’t mean that he feels likes like a man on the inside. What is going on externally is then going to have very little to do with what is going on internally. Still, even though his physical appearance will create the impression that he is a man, it ...
Views: 105 - Energetic Abuse: Can Someone Energetically Abuse Another Person? - by Submitted on Apr 16, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was asked to talk about what abuse looks like, they may say that this is what happens when someone is put down, hit, sexually taken advantage of, or emotionally invalidated. When something like this takes place, it will be clear that someone is not being treated in the right way. At ...
Views: 107 - Critical Thinking: Can Someone's Negative Energy Have A Destructive Effect On The Planet? - by Submitted on Apr 15, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperFor a little while now, a lot has been said about the planet and how it is not in a good way. On one side, there is a focus on what is going on with the weather, and on the other, there is a focus on what is happening on the ground. And although the media has spoken about the weather for a ...
Views: 115(1 vote) - You Are Not Broken - by Submitted on Apr 13, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhen Errol Campbell and I were doing live videos about a year ago, he said that it wasn’t just about us giving advice. While this was part of it, he also said that we were there to hold the space so that the people on the call could find their own answers. At the time, I found it hard to get ...
Views: 177(1 vote) - Are Some People Slowly Killing Themselves? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIn recent years, a lot has been said about the amount of people who are ending their life as well as those who have thought about doing so. As a result of what has been going on, there is a strong chance that some people are ending their life right now and there are others who are thinking about ...
Views: 91 - Self-Trust, Red Flags and Relationship Anxiety - by Submitted on Apr 11, 2019 from Sheryl PaulJust as there are no rules for life, there are no rules for relationships. That statement can be triggering for the ego, the part of us that insatiably demands definite answers and craves formulas. “Tell me how to live and how to love and then I’ll know that I’ll be okay!” the ego thinks, then ...
Views: 112 - A Remedy When You Don’t Know Who You Are - by Submitted on Apr 11, 2019 from Sheryl PaulOur culture entrains us not to know who we are. From the time we’re born and continuing into our early years, we’re conditioned to externalize our sense of self through being told when and how to eat, sleep, play, socialize, learn. Although this may be changing, the dominant child-raising ...
Views: 469 - Does The Past Only Exist In Our Head? - by Submitted on Apr 11, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperA few days ago, I came across a quote that had been placed on a picture. and this was a quote that had received a lot of positive feedback on a social media site. The ‘law of attraction’ was also mentioned underneath it. Part of this quote basically said that the past only exists in our ...
Views: 93 - Powerless: Are Some People Addicted To Feeling Powerless? - by Submitted on Apr 08, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperOne of the reasons why someone would get into self-development is because they feel powerless. As a result of this, they are going to be looking for a way to change how they feel so that they can change their life. Part of them, then, is going to realise that they are not powerless, which is ...
Views: 111 - Do Your Friends Use You As A Free Therapist? - by Submitted on Apr 07, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperA number of weeks ago I was talking to someone who was used to having people talk to them about their problems. It was easy to see why this was as they were a good listener, had a lot of empathy, and there was a gentleness to them. Due to this, it would have been strange if this person ...
Views: 96 - Is Past Life Trauma Sabotaging Your Life? - by Submitted on Apr 06, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I was working with a therapist in 2007, I thought that I was working through lot of pain that was from my past lives. However, after working through this pain, my life didn’t really change. As time went by I came to believe that dealing with past life issues was a waste of time and I ...
Views: 117 - Self-Worth: Can Someone Be Made To Feel Worthless? - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf one is in a relationship that is abusive, they can find that it is hard for them to feel good about themselves. So, through spending so much time around someone who undermines them, the good feelings that they had will have just about disappeared. Before this took place, they may have ...
Views: 114 - Music Can Help You To Grieve Your Unmet Childhood Needs - by Submitted on Apr 04, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIt is well known that it is important to grieve after a loved one has passed on, but what is not as well known is that it is also important for someone to grieve their unmet childhood needs. However, in the same way that someone can lose touch with the pain that is within them after another ...
Views: 117 - Let Your Feelings Guide You - by Submitted on Apr 03, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I was reading ‘The Integrity Of Personality’ by Anthony Storr, there were a lot of things that stood out. This is a book that came out a few decades ago, but it is full of great information. And one of the things that stood out was when he basically said that a therapist can’t make a ...
Views: 112 - Femininity: Why Do Some Women Criticise Women Who Act Feminine? - by Submitted on Apr 01, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIn the same way that there are men who are more feminine than masculine, there are also women who are more masculine than feminine. Now, if someone believes that men are an expression of the masculine and women are an expression of the feminine, it can be hard for them to understand why this is ...
Views: 76 - Femininity: How Can A Woman Be More Feminine? - by Submitted on Mar 31, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf a woman was to find that she has the tendency to attract men who are not very masculine and/or if she is tired of trying to make everything happen through force, she may look into what she can do to embrace more of her feminine aspect. Still, having a strong masculine element may have allowed ...
Views: 82 - Critical Thinking: Why Do Some Men Criticise Men Who Act Feminine? - by Submitted on Mar 30, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough a man may accept that some men are more masculine than others, there is also the chance that this is something that he is not willing to accept. This is something that can define how he responds to men who are not very masculine. If a man can accept this, he may just see men as ...
Views: 135 - Child Abuse: Why Would Someone Expect Their Parent/s To Give Them What They Couldn't Give Them As A Child? - by Submitted on Mar 29, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhile someone may have received the kind of care that they needed during their early years in order to develop in the right way; there is also the chance that this didn’t take place. As a result of this, their early years may have been a time in their life when they experienced a hell of a lot ...
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